And you’re still SINGLE?
So I heard it again last night… “Why are you still single?” Although, I have to admit it is not as bad as the alternatives…”What is wrong with you?” OR “You must have an asterisk!” Why is it that if people meet an intelligent and oh so fun girl who is close to 30 and never married they automatically assume there is something wrong with her rather than just realizing the assiduousness and confidence it took to get her in this stage of her fabulous life without making the horrible mistake of jumping over the fence with someone she knows is not a life match. Guys I date actually admit to me that one of the first questions that crossed their mind after they met me is…Why is this girl still single??? (AKA what is wrong with her)!!! Seriously, is today’s 30-year-old female the old maid of the century just as years ago it was sad if you were not sporting a ring by the end of your teens?!
The funny thing is, it I am fine with my station in life…as my grandmother always tells me “There are worse things than being single.” It seems to be society, family, & friends that just can not understand how I manage to get through the day with not only being single but being without a significant boyfriend to sport at parties and events. However, it doesn’t really bother me, I can always find a date and have always been fine on my own; I am that person who would rather shop by myself, enjoys going to the movies on my own, and will go crazy if I am not given some “alone time” at some point during the day. I do not need anyone to quote “complete me”, I just want to find someone who has their own life and will keep up with and challenge me.
My friend’s husband calls me “The Catch” as I am a girl who would rather get tickets to a ball game than flowers, who is a cleaning machine and actually enjoys it, thinks the Monday Night Football theme music ranks with the classics, can really cook but cringes at the thought of shopping at a home or kitchen store, on and on. Although, the other night one of my guy friends was giving me a hard time about being emotionally neglecting all because I do not like to hold hands. Some of my gal-friends have said that although I am an outrageous flirt, they think guys have a hard time knowing I really like them because I am so independent and do not do the normal girly things. So below is how I view a few things…
HOLDING HANDS
Why? Seriously, what is the point, especially when walking? Wouldn’t it be easier and traffic flow a lot easier if we just focused on walking and not being intertwined. All that happens is you get clammy hands and have to contort your body to scratch your nose, take a drink, etc. If were given 10 fingers to utilize, why not paint a picture, knit a blanket, but please don’t waste the productivity taking another 5 useful organs away from another person. I know you like me, you are with me, which is all I need for my emotional stability
SITTING NEXT TO EACH OTHER
Okay, so the point of the evening is to “watch” the movie, right. It only reasons that sitting next to each other could prove to be a distraction resulting in an intermission (if you know what I mean.) If I am allowed to sit by myself, I can sit in any position I so choose without worrying about how you are feeling and should I want to fidget (which is only expected) your comfort will not be altered and when I reposition, you're still as cozy as a rock star. If you decide to shake your leg, pop you jaw, or what ever the flavor of the day is, I am not affected. Ah, the beauty of solidarity but yet with the presence of another. Once again, I know you like me, we are watching the movie/TV/whatever together not alone.
The funny thing is, it I am fine with my station in life…as my grandmother always tells me “There are worse things than being single.” It seems to be society, family, & friends that just can not understand how I manage to get through the day with not only being single but being without a significant boyfriend to sport at parties and events. However, it doesn’t really bother me, I can always find a date and have always been fine on my own; I am that person who would rather shop by myself, enjoys going to the movies on my own, and will go crazy if I am not given some “alone time” at some point during the day. I do not need anyone to quote “complete me”, I just want to find someone who has their own life and will keep up with and challenge me.
My friend’s husband calls me “The Catch” as I am a girl who would rather get tickets to a ball game than flowers, who is a cleaning machine and actually enjoys it, thinks the Monday Night Football theme music ranks with the classics, can really cook but cringes at the thought of shopping at a home or kitchen store, on and on. Although, the other night one of my guy friends was giving me a hard time about being emotionally neglecting all because I do not like to hold hands. Some of my gal-friends have said that although I am an outrageous flirt, they think guys have a hard time knowing I really like them because I am so independent and do not do the normal girly things. So below is how I view a few things…
HOLDING HANDS
Why? Seriously, what is the point, especially when walking? Wouldn’t it be easier and traffic flow a lot easier if we just focused on walking and not being intertwined. All that happens is you get clammy hands and have to contort your body to scratch your nose, take a drink, etc. If were given 10 fingers to utilize, why not paint a picture, knit a blanket, but please don’t waste the productivity taking another 5 useful organs away from another person. I know you like me, you are with me, which is all I need for my emotional stability
SITTING NEXT TO EACH OTHER
Okay, so the point of the evening is to “watch” the movie, right. It only reasons that sitting next to each other could prove to be a distraction resulting in an intermission (if you know what I mean.) If I am allowed to sit by myself, I can sit in any position I so choose without worrying about how you are feeling and should I want to fidget (which is only expected) your comfort will not be altered and when I reposition, you're still as cozy as a rock star. If you decide to shake your leg, pop you jaw, or what ever the flavor of the day is, I am not affected. Ah, the beauty of solidarity but yet with the presence of another. Once again, I know you like me, we are watching the movie/TV/whatever together not alone.
So maybe that is not how others feel about these age-old traditions and yes, I have been told that I think like a guy. WHATEVER, I chalk it up to good ole common sense.
Then again, maybe I have just not met the right person...maybe someday I will want to hold hands and constantly cuddle! Who knows!
posted by MY THOUGTS @ 8:04 PM
3 Comments:
I'm glad to see a woman not afraid to be honest with herself. I wish more women would follow your example. I think it's better to be single for the rest of your life rather than be with someone just to not be alone.
Once again, keep up the excellent posts.
Thanks for the support. Besides what would my married friends do if they could not live vicariously through my adventures?!
Harp,
I'm glad to know you are still "Harp"! Please do not ever change. this blog is so the Harp i knew...i love it (LOL). I like holding hands even though you're right about the movie intermission thing...holding hands and rolling do not mesh for me so i like you view on that even though i'm sure one of my ex's would hate it...lol! that's all for now...i'll email you soon and it rocks that we're back in touch....later...
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